So much about listening to right conduct and right way to find great joy. A lot of friends of mine talked about their relationship with other people and with the opposite sex. I listened. Not only that, but observing the world, lower immorality is seems the trend now. So, I’ve come to write what I think about what’s going on regarding sexual mistake. Let’s talk about the 7<sup>th</sup> commandment and I think most of the people of the world especially those who can be reached by media/internet know what I am talking about. Well, since I’m unmarried yet, let me just broaden the perspective about young people who are not married yet but goes on with the world by doing the acts of premarital sex. Men and women were designed to be together to need each other. As children grow old enough to shoulder the responsibilities of a family and come to love and honor someone of the opposite sex, it is natural and proper for them to marry – be joined together- and create their own family apart from their parents. Only then should they “become one flesh” by physically uniting in a sexual relationship. Now, according to one lecturer I listened to from my podcast, sex is not only about physical intimacy but it also includes the brain, the heart, emotions and spiritual. Let’s not get it wrong. Sex involves a lot of aspects. Unless the natural desires that attract us to members of the opposite sex are channeled exclusively toward a loving marriage relationship, the temptation to engage in sexual immorality can easily overpower our self-control. Tell me when I’m wrong. Isn’t it too easy to give in? Adultery is the violation of the marriage covenant by willful participation in sexual activity with someone other than one’s spouse. So, what is the message of the 7<sup>th</sup> commandment? Noo sexual relationships of any sort should occur outside of marriage. God gave us the 7<sup>th</sup> commandment to direct and define the sexual roles that bring lasting happiness and stability. Nothing is more desperately needed in this age. God created sex. It was His idea. He wants us to enjoy an abundantly pleasurable and stable sexual relationship WITHIN marriage. Again concerning adultery we are warned: “Can a man take fire to his bosom, on his clothes and not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbors’ wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent” Proverbs 6:27-29. Now, let’s consider the worldwide havoc wreaked by sex outside of marriage. If we notice, most people simply refuse to contemplate its staggering consequences. Two prevailing views stand out. Some people assert their right to do whatever they please: “Nobody is going to tell me what I can do in life.” Others rationalize virtually any kind of behavior: It doesn’t matter what I do so long as NO ONE gets hurt. They use these arguments to justify all sorts of sexual behavior. Both views ignore a fundamental reality: People <em>do</em> get hurt – badly hurt. Immorality in any form is ultimately destructive. Adultery’s first casualty? OUR MIND AND CHARACTER. Equally damaging is the personal abasement that flows from sexual immorality. It can be denied, but it cannot be avoided. Now, let’s consider the disastrous effects of the sexual revolution. The explosion in sexually transmissible diseases (STDs) is an international disgrace. STD is accounted to be the most commonly infectious diseases in the world. AIDS alone takes a frightening toll in lives and suffering and rivals the most epidemics in history. The decline in commitment to marriage and family and the resulting decrease in spouses’ loyalty and devotion to each other have contributed heavily to the steady increase in extramarital game. Talk about live-in relationships too which is so rampant. In my young age, I was surprised when one parent of my student told me that she is only living-in with the father of their three kids. THREE kids! Of course, I’ve heard a lot about this through the media but never have I thought that I would meet one. Children are the big losers in this kind of society with its touted sexual revolution. They receive less and less parental guidance. In many countries fathers spend an average of only a few minutes per day in one-on-one contact with teach child. Society is losing sight of what families are all about. Broken homes are another cost of the sexual revolution. A majority of the economically disadvantaged live in one-parent homes. Homes headed by a single parent are a leading factor in the incidence of subsequent criminal activity. Broken homes are the main consequence of sexual immorality and shattered marriages resulting from sexual infidelity. Another result is the reducing of many people to poverty. Why? Lets’ add the devastating legal fees and decreased productivity and income not the mention the frequent loss of dwellings and personal property. Divorce makes for even deeper personal problems. Custody fights go on for years. Children’s grades suffer, some drop out of school. They become pawns in a tug of war between parents for their love and loyalty. Teenagers in turn become parents at younger and younger ages. Then there’s the Psychological cost. Long before a divorce, emotional and psychological damage is often inflicted on the mate and children of the sexually unfaithful. Many are permanently scarred. Shame and a loss of sense of self-worth. In these situations, a home can no longer provide the warmth, comfort and security that build confidence and hope. Lack of hope contributes to suicides, which after accidents are the leading cause of death among teenagers and young adults. Such tragedies can occur years after the sowing of the seeds of despair. The psychological cost of betrayal, rejection and abandonment is staggering. The spirit of millions is submerged in anger, depression and bitterness because their trust in one whom they loved – whether mate or parent – has been betrayed. Many of these people are emotionally distorted for life. Some of them seek counseling, but others look for vengeance. The problems go on and on. Who said no one gets hurt? Adultery and promiscuity are tickets to social disaster. The real cost of sexual immorality is astronomical. Contrary to the opinions of most people, sexual fantasies are anything but harmless. Let’s not forget our actions originate in our thoughts, in the desires to float through our minds. Daydreams of illicit sexual encounters render us especially vulnerable to the real thing. Thanks to the new generation of sexual revolutions where everywhere we see billboards, magazines, media, the list goes on and on. Opportunities to sin will come. Companionship is one of the greatest blessings we can gain from a stable and loving marriage. Most of us need the support and companionship of a loving spouse. We need someone special who can share our ups and downs, triumphs and failures. No one can fill this role like a mate who shares with us a deep love and commitment. Society suffers because we have lost the vision that God had for marriage from the beginning. Marriage is not a requirement for success in pleasing God. But it si tremendous blessings to couples who treat each other as God intended. Most people desire and need the benefits that come from a stable marriage. To return to what God intended, we must give marriage the respect it deserves. We must faithfully obey our Creator’s commandment “You shall not commit adultery.”
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